Girl’s guide to dating geeks – How to date men 101

By definition taken from Wikipedia, the word geek is a slang term, noting individuals as “a peculiar or otherwise odd person, especially one who is perceived to be overly obsessed with one or more things including those of intellectuality, electronics, etc.” When it comes to dating or even socializing, geeks aren’t that inclined to mingling with other people.

So supposing one does manage to ask a girl out on a date, the burden of socializing with the opposite sex is quite heavy. But did you know girls who get asked out by geeks also have a hard time on their own; especially with the thought of wanting to know on how to date a guy who is technologically inclined and far more intellectual than they are. Believe it or not, women often get intimidated when it comes to intellectual men. Women’s mentality is that geeks tend to take good care of their woman friends, giving the kind of comfort that only they can provide. So do you want to know how to date men who are obsessed with Star Wars, Star Trek, knows the latest technology coming in and knows just about everything under the sun? Read on to find out some important tidbits and advices on how to date men who are on an intellectual level with Albert Einstein:

How to date men tip #1 – Compliment them with their attire. I know this sounds Manly-ish, but geeks put a lot of effort to get dressed for a date. Appreciation is a give and take relationship.

How to date men tip #2 – Get to know them behind the intellectual façade. Just because geeks have peculiar taste doesn’t mean you won’t have interests in common. You might be surprised if the geek you are dating knows about the latest shows which also interest you.

How to date men tip#3 – Don’t be too hard on the guy. Geeks also have feelings too and just like any other guy, will still feel hurt when they are rejected or left at the bar. When you and your geek are at a bar and you see a friend, don’t leave him to rot but instead introduce him to your friend or acquaintance. This act will help him get over his own obstacle of mingling with other people.

How to date men tip#4 – Listen to him. Geeks love to rant, especially just about anything. I know you can agree with him on some of his rants and this will often lead to a healthy and somehow intellectual conversation. Doing this will ease up his tension because he is with a girl and doing this will also help you get to know the guy.
There are so many possibilities to what you can do when it comes to dating geeks. Of course, geeks also have different variations as stated earlier. In the end, it all comes down to knowing a little something about the guy and in return helping him overcome certain social obstacles. Who knows, you might even enjoy his company and continue to seek out more of it.
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How to ask a girl out – Easy tips on how to get a date

Asking a girl out is always one of most daunting and scary tasks guys have to put with. Before a relationship blooms, it always boils down on how a guy and girl go about on their dates. Yet, before a date comes into play, the guy has to ask a girl out on a date first.

Even the seasoned daters have trouble asking girls out on a date simply because girls are always on the defensive for looking out for guys who just want to fool around. This makes it harder for guys who are just starting to date as well. Whether in school, at work, church or simply in the neighborhood, there will always be girls who will get our attention and who we want to go out with. But how does one break the ice and get the courage to talk to the girl? Here are some tips on how to get a date.

How to get a date tidbit #1 – Know the status first. Make sure she’s not married or currently in a relationship. You don’t want to be the reason why she’s having relationship problems.

How to get a date tidbit # 2 – Indulge her in conversation. Don’t ask her out impromptu just because you’ve taken a liking to her. Break the ice by making small talk and let the conversation flow naturally.

How to get a date tidbit # 3 – Don’t be hasty. As stated in number 2, don’t ask her out simply because you’re attracted to her. This will increase the chance of rejection on your part and she will just think you’re weird and creepy.

These are just some of the most important things to do on how to get a date. When you are successful, the next thing you will be thinking of is how to date women.
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First date ideas – Ideas to help you land a second date

First dates are always crucial in every relationship. Before you or the girl will even decide to have another date with you, the first date will be the deciding factor.

Why are first dates important? Generally speaking, first dates are like the baby steps to a relationship. First impressions are made during the first dates, and will most likely determine if the girl will want to have another date with you. Asking her out is always that big obstacle in every guy’s life and no matter how “seasoned” the guy is at dating, it will always be like asking a girl out for the first time. After asking a girl out, the next big obstacle would be what to do on a first date. This is a problem since we really don’t want to embarrass ourselves in front of our lady friend. Here are some first date ideas that will help you land a second date or maybe more:

1.) Where to go on a first date – first dates are usually just conversations and getting to know each other so I would pretty much suggest to take your girl out to a restaurant for a comfortable atmosphere, and then maybe a coffee shop or bar to continue where you left off after leaving the restaurant. Of course, you can always opt to go out of the box and do something unique. Girls love it when guys are spontaneous.
2.) What to wear on a first date – depending on the location and setting of your date, always make sure to dress for the occasion. Seriously, you can’t go about wearing a shirt and jogging pants on a fancy restaurant, or a wear a coat and tie on an outdoor picnic. Ask your partner what she will wear on that night so you can match or compliment her attire, that way you two will look so adorable together.
3.) What to say on a first date – as stated, we don’t want to embarrass ourselves. All you have to do is just be honest whenever a girl asks you something. You can also compliment her. Girls love compliments. Avoid long and awkward silences. Be spontaneous with your conversations and keep it flowing. Make one topic lead to another. Ask her about her likes, dislikes, and so on. This will come in useful at a later time.

These are just the general first date ideas that work for almost always. Everything else will pretty much depend on you. Never be afraid to be spontaneous and go out of the box. You can go out on a limb to make the girl feel extra special and this will help you land a second date. One last thing, just be yourself. Yes, this is a very tiring and boring advice that we hear when going out on dates but in a manner of speaking, girls don’t like it when you pretend to be someone you’re not.
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First date tips – how to make it a fun first date

Preparing for a first date is by far one of the most nerve-wrecking things any guy or girl will have to endure. From the “what outfit to wear to the dinner/lunch spot to what to do after” planning, our mentality at this point is “everything I do or say must be perfect and I must not slip up”.

Generally speaking, first dates are important because you are setting up the foundation for what could be a very nice relationship. Asking for a second and third and fourth and so on date will be determined on how you go on about the first date. Seriously, first impressions LAST when it comes to first dates. Sometimes girls will judge a guy on their first date by the location and setting of their date and how well a guy has planned the evening. But take note, the pressure is just isn’t on the guys but on the girls as well. Girls also have to put on a good impression if they want to be asked out on a second date or if they want the guy to be interested in them. All in all, first dates are nerve-wrecking but worthwhile. Here are just some fun first date tips for guys:

1.) Sports and outdoor activities – who said first dates should only involve dinner and a show? Be spontaneous. Take her hiking and then a picnic at the end of the summit or trail. Come up with a couples sport like badminton or tennis and have a cold drink after the game. Bonds formed in these dates are far closer than the usual dinner date.

2.) Concerts / Theaters – so you opt to have the usual dinner date as a means of getting to know each other, and after dinner, now what? Bars and coffee shops are old news now. Get a hold of your local theater for the listings of shows and concerts and set up your date on that particular date. Who knows, you might uncover something about her unknowingly like how she’s a fan of theatrical play, musicals, etc.

These are just some out of the box fun first date tips for guys out there. The possibilities are limitless when it comes to dating. Just pick one and make it work for you. Remember, girls love it when guys are spontaneous and think out of the box from time to time.
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